How to marry a farmer

I’m told that the best place to find a farmer husband in Ireland is at the National Ploughing Championships, a three-day mid-week event that this year attracted more than 279 000 people. Not that I’m looking or anything… but it’s been on my bucket list now for a number of years – the Ploughing, that is, not the farmer. Mind you, I could well be tempted. Some of those lads had to be in search of a wife themselves, but it’s hard to compete with the latest Massy Feguson. Most of the punters were there to see  the 460 or so stands displaying everything from supermarket food to combine harvesters. Apparently only 10% (myself included) actually go look at the ploughing itself.

IMG_4758 (800x400)IMG_4754 (800x600)You could eat your way around the Aldi and Lidl stands (the sausages were in the great demand) or enter competition after competition to try to win a year’s supply of fertiliser or heating fuel. There were fashion shows (wellies are all the rage this year) both for people and animals, and displays of all sorts that made sure everyone was catered for. Had I been in practice, I’d have signed up for the Welly-Throwing Competition. As it was I had to tear myself away from the sheepdog trials. Just about anything passes for entertainment and it’s the simple stuff that’s the most amusing.

IMG_4795 (800x600)On the radio during the week in the lead-up to the big event, Lorna Sixsmith  was being interviewed (she’s written a book called Would you marry a farmer?). And she was at the Ploughing  – am raging I missed her stickers:


I dated a farIMG_4747 (800x600)mer once. And while we were stepping out, I read the Farmers Independent on a Friday with a religiosity that bordered on fervour. I knew all there was to know about artificial insemination, silage, and calving. I could IMG_4748 (800x600)find my way around a milking parlour and even managed to milk a cow or two by hand. That skill is still with me. It’s like riding a bike – you never forget. I was as familiar with cattle prices then as I am with the forint/euro exchange rates today. And I knew enough to know that you have to get the lingo right – drawing cattle means moving them, not painting them. Leave the easel and the oil paints at home. Thank you, Lorna. And as for the abbreviations and the acroynms? You’d need a degree to figure out what they’re talking about.

IMG_4837 (800x600)IMG_4757 (600x800)But back then, farming was farming. Today it seems to have gone all technical. Do you know that cows have showers now? Custom-made jobs, too. And these calving cameras had me going for a while. It’s all high tech stuff and I suppose it has to be really – there’s no reason in the world why modern technology should have passed the farmers by. And, believe it or not, there’s a UK-based Internet dating site specially for them  – Muddy Matches. ‘Tis a far cry from the days of John B. Keane’s John Bosco in  The Chastitute. Bachelor farmers these days apparently think more about the land they stand to lose should a marriage not work out than all they stand to gain if it does.

I hadn’t given much thought to what sort of farmer I’d be into, were I in the market for one. But apparently tillage farmers, according to Lorna, actually have down time and there might be some chance of a holiday once a year. The dairy ones are early risers and are at it year ’round. And as for the breeders… am not sure I could compete with a prize heifer. I have a thing for undivided attention and sharing it with a beast who is regularly titivated might be too much for me. Mind you, there’s always Seamus.

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5 replies
  1. Bernard Adams
    Bernard Adams says:

    I think this shows you what you may have missed . . .

    overheard in county sligo

    I married a man from County Roscommon
    and I live in the back of beyond
    with a field of cows and a yard of hens
    and six white geese on the pond.

    At my door’s a square of yellow corn
    caught up by its corners and shaken,
    and the road runs down through the open gate
    and freedom’s there for the taking.

    I had thought to work on the Abbey stage
    or have my name in a book,
    to see my thought on the printed page,
    or still the crowd with a look.

    But I turn to fold the breakfast cloth
    and to polish the lustre and brass,
    to order and dust the tumbled rooms
    and find my face in the glass.

    I ought to feel I’m a happy woman
    for I lie in the lap of the land,
    but I married the man from County Roscommon
    and I live at the back of beyond.


  2. stcoemgen
    stcoemgen says:

    Your list of farmer types to marry is missing one important consideration: Vineyardist and wine maker.

    I know not many options there for Ireland farmer husbands, but why limit yourself geographically?

    Besides, I always say one should love the products you produce from a farm. Cheese is all well and fine, but grapes only need to be “milked” once a year.

    ( P.S. Am a vineyardist and wine maker, but alas, I am also already taken….. 🙂 )

    • Mary
      Mary says:

      Well there’s a new one on me. I’d never had thought of a vineyard being a farm – but yes, you’re right. Time to broaden my horizons 🙂


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